Long-distance relationships are not for the faint of heart. Not being able to rely on your partner, hug them after a long day, or share your thoughts with them over a glass of wine on the couch is tough. However, it’s even harder to keep the relationship alive and attraction at a certain level when you can’t physically be with your significant other.
Physical proximity helps us build intimacy and closeness with our partners. Therefore, when we’re far away from them, it may sometimes seem impossible to connect with them.
But just because it’s hard doesn’t mean it’s unattainable. Long-distance relationships can work, but that requires commitment from both parties. One of the best ways to make sure your long-distance relationship doesn’t end up in the trash bin is to put in the effort and use all means necessary to make your partner feel loved.
Show Them You Care
Your absolute priority, if you’re in a long-distance relationship, is to ensure that your partner knows you care. That means you have to show up for them in all manners possible. You can’t be there in person every time (or most of the time), which means that you have to let them know you think of them in other ways.
Being available is vital. However, so is ensuring your partner knows you have the hots for them. It’s easy to let that slide since you can’t physically be intimate. However, you shouldn’t. Let them know you care by telling them just how attractive you think they are, just how sorry you are that you can’t ravish them each and every night, and how horny they make you.
It’s important to ensure you meet your partner’s romantic and sexual needs in any way you can.
Make the Time for Them
Set aside time for your partner. Set up a daily catch-up session, a weekly virtual movie night, and a monthly date. Spending time together is essential even when you can’t actually spend time together.
To show them you think about them even when you aren’t speaking, you should send them little tokens of affection. It can be anything from a quick pic in their inbox of a thing that reminded you of them to gifts, care packages, or even food deliveries. You can also send them long love letters that will arrive in the mail when they least expect it.
It’s also important that you don’t forget about the sexual part of your relationship. Sure, pictures of cute dogs should definitely end up in your chat but so should a dirty story or two.
How Sex Toys Can Help
So, while you’re scheduling those movie nights and chatting sessions, it wouldn’t be bad to also schedule some one-on-one sexy times.
Sex is important for any relationship. It maintains intimacy and deepens the connection. Phone sex can do wonders for a long-distance relationship, and thanks to modern technology, phone sex can be just as thrilling and exciting as in-person sex.
Phone sex, or the act of masturbating while talking on the phone with your partner, is an integral part of any long-distance relationship.
Over the years, we have come a long way since hanging onto our landlines with one hand while rubbing ourselves with the other, desperately trying to focus on the voice of our significant other and not think about the astronomical phone bill that will surely arrive at the end of the month.
Today, modern technology has allowed us to be in constant contact with people, which lessens the strain on people in long-distance relationships (and their wallets). With instant messaging and video chats, we can be closer to our partners than ever before, even when they are miles (or continents) away.
Make good use of the technology at your disposal and have regular masturbation sessions with your beau.
It’s important to share fantasies with your partner. That way, you’re letting them know they are a major part of your sex life. Even though they aren’t there physically, they still play a major part in your sex life.
So don’t be afraid to let them know about every fantasy you have (especially this that they star in).
Of course, masturbating for hours over the phone gets old after a while. That’s why it’s important that you try to keep it fresh. One of the ways you can do that is with sex toys.
Sex Toys Can Help You Turn Fantasy into Reality
Sex toys can bring a layer of innovation and excitement into your relationship. When things get a bit stale, it’s a good move to whip out a sex toy or two which will spice up your relationship.
This novelty that you can share with your partner will maintain that thrilling feeling you probably had at the beginning of the relationship. Not to mention, they can improve the overall feeling. Sure, you can probably finish yourself off with your hand, but why not change your approach and use a sex toy to better connect with your partner?
Sex toys can actually help you stay faithful to your partner. With toys, as mentioned, things can always be fresh, exciting, and new. Therefore, you won’t get into a full routine that might entice one of you to stray. Also, you won’t be perpetually horny, either.
Keep Things Simple
If you’re looking for a perfect toy for your long-distance relationship, you can’t go wrong with simple ones. A vibrator or a pocket vagina might seem basic, but they can really improve your sex life.
Pocket vaginas are great options for everyone with a penis because they improve regular masturbation with unexpected and different textures and sensations. What’s more, they are easy to handle (even during phone sex).
Or Pick Something Wild
If you want to get down and dirty with your partner but don’t want basic toys, you can always go for something more high-tech. For example, there are toys that are specifically designed to work in tandem over long distances. They come in pairs and are usually a stroker and vibrator pair or a blowjob machine and thruster pair. Either way, the devices can sync up and mimic what the other is doing.
This enhances the realism since you can feel what your partner is doing in real time and vice versa.
If you really want to keep the spark in your long-distance relationship alive, then pick a sex toy with your partner and make sure you use it frequently. Alternatively, you can also pick out something yourself and send it to them as part of a care package. It will show them you’re thinking of them and that you want to get down and dirty. It’s a win-win!